It’s my husband’s birthday today – he’s the birthday boy!
I spent a good part of the afternoon making a eco-friendly birthday card ( my daughter couldn’t believe that I punched out hundreds of dots and glued each one onto the card…I believe she said something like, “how old school.” But you know, I enjoyed every second of it. I pumped the music up loud and I went to work. It was so good to think about what Chris means to me. I mean, isn’t that what a birthday is for? I want to tell him that I’m really thankful that he was born 52 yeas ago.
But there’s more to this story.
My oldest daughter recently taught me an invaluable lesson about birthdays. She poignantly reminded me how important it is to listen well to loved ones – to be all present and attentive to the little things that are said in conversation. When it comes to a birthday, make it your goal to express love to the person in the way that he/she will most naturally appreciate. Is it special time together? A gift? A hug? Kind words? Acts of service? You probably recognize Gary Chapman’s infamous love languages here. Although I do not fully agree with the “you scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours” implications of this model, I do believe that the recognition of a person’s preferred expression of love is a good “tool” to understand when it comes to relationships.
Because of that conversation with Dawne and being very aware that Chris’ birthday was approaching, I’ve been on the “look-see” and the hear-listen” for clues leading to great birthday presents.
I “done good” this time. Special welcome home…special dinner…special gifts….for a special person.
Everyone wants to be celebrated. It’s always a good day for a party.
Most of us can remember a time when a birthday – especially if it was one’s own – brightened the world as if a second sun has risen. Robert Staughton Lynd