Dealing With Disappointment
We’ve all experienced it – the bigger the expectation, the deeper the disappointment. Some of us deal with it better than others but all of us have felt that thud to the chest that knocks the wind out of our sails for a while – and we know that change is on the horizon.
It’s one thing to deal with one’s own disappointment but this past week, I have felt the pain of experiencing a loved one’s disappointment. She was crestfallen. I vacillated between rescuing and distancing, taking over and surrendering, being tearful and being angry about the situation but ultimately, all I could offer this person was presence.
My life has convincingly taught me that trials reveal my character and the object of my faith. When the high winds and storms have swept over me and I have wrestled with the onslaught of perceived helplessness, I have learned to allow God to pin me down. Surrendering is a life long practice and when it’s about my life, it’s my choice and my consequences. But how does one walk beside someone else who is so much younger and offer a perspective that one can only embrace as the result of victoriously claiming God’s presence in the worse of times? As a older woman, I know that sometimes I just gotta’ let others fall so they can experience first hand, how God alone can lift up and restore.
I have offered my ear, my love and my stories but only Jesus has offered His life. I believe that He is Hope. From Him, comes life-giving perspective.
Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that He may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on Him because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5.6,7 NIV
I don’t claim to understand much about wrestling but after watching a few Olympic matches, it’s pretty obvious that it’s the one who pins you down that gets the victory…
…and so it should be.
When God pins me down, I know it’s because He loves me.
When God pins others down, I know He does so with love and compassion.
When our desire is to give God the glory, we can embrace change and wait for His good and perfect redirection.
No matter how disappointed you are feeling or how much you are hurting, know that every heartache and loss has within it the seeds of opportunity. Hidden within each disappointment is a pearl of great price, that, when found, will totally dwarf your problem. The greatest success stories are written by people who, against seemingly overwhelming and often insurmountable odds, have accepted their trials and turned them into opportunities for personal growth and stepping stones on their pathway to success. With God’s help you can do the same. Trust Him and choose friends who will empower you to do so. Dick Innes