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Embracing Rejection and Boo

Tough week – grieving my mother’s death, being on my back for two days with terrible muscle spasms, getting used to Boo, Danae’s cat, while being allergic to its fur (but he is cute!) and last but not least, receiving my second book proposal rejection from a publishing company.

Sometimes, life is like this. We’ve all had these moments when life “punches you in the gut.”  It takes the wind out of your sails for a while, doesn’t it?

I know what I need to do –  pick myself up, brush off the dirt, take a big breath and carry on.  My husband texted me this morning, “Hey, keep writing, OK?  I love you!”  I really appreciated his encouragement and support but there were those few fleeting moments, when I felt like climbing back into bed and escaping life for a while.  I didn’t – instead, I decided it was a good time to blog.

This morning, I decided to google “published writers who were rejected” – just to get some healthy perspective. I spent an hour reading stories, not only about published writers but also successful business gurus, scientists and thinkers, inventors, public figures, Hollywood types, artists, musicians and athletes… so many people who have received multiple rejections and experienced multiple failures before they “got it right.”

It’s no surprise to me that it was perseverance that kept all of these people going.  Judy Blume, a well-known American author who had written many books for teens and young adults, received nothing but rejections for two years.

I would go to sleep at night feeling that I’d never be published. But I’d wake up in the morning convinced I would be. Each time I sent a story or book off to a publisher, I would sit down and begin something new. I was learning more with each effort. I was determined. Determination and hard work are as important as talent.   Don’t let anyone discourage you! Yes, rejection and criticism hurt. Get used to it. Even when you’re published you’ll have to contend with less than glowing reviews. There is no writer who hasn’t suffered.” 

Judy Blume

I think Ms. Blume has a very healthy way of looking at this up-and-down experience of writing and publishing a book.

These past few months that I have committed to writing has been awesome.  I truly love the discipline, the rhythm and the excitement of reflecting on and communicating new ideas.  I continue to learn so much each day – including how to respond graciously to the rejections.   Both rejection letters have ended with something like, “I hope you are able to find just the right publishing home for this project.”  I hope so too. I strongly believe what I’m writing about and I need to finish what I started last July.

I also need to buy some Claritin so I can survive the next month, living with Boo.

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  1. Debbie Walsh

    Happy Easter Diane,
    I sure understand the pain of rejection from different corners of life – the punch in the gut can happen anywhere, anytime. My heart quickly remembers The One who felt most rejected in His innocence and message of love and yet opened His arms wide on the cross to accept and embrace His Father’s will. It is grace that allows us the wisdom to sit with our rejection and listen with our hearts for the whisper of Our Father telling us He is here for us. Often times, His voice will be found in the tenderness of a husband saying ” Hey keep writing. I love you”. Pure, gentle grace…..
    Keep writing Diane!
    Peace and Blessings – Debbie

  2. Jessie Burgess

    Hang in there Diane….keep on keeping on with your writing. I am sure, after reading all your blogs during the past several months, and seeing your gift for putting your thoughts down on paper, that the right Publishing House will certainly be interested in your book. Remember, God is filling your pen every time you sit down to honour God with your writing. Love ‘Mrs. B.’

  3. Karen Perrott

    I second Mrs B’s thoughts
    Keep on writing Diane. We love you and your writing is a gift to us all!!

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