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Emotional Dominoes

@MindsConsole The eyes are useless

Powerful words to ponder. This can happen numerous times in a day and will steal our joy.

When we willingly choose not to process an event – when we stuff or deny our feelings, our eyes will not see truth; they will see what we want them to see.

And this is the beginning of trouble.

Let me give you a fictitious example. Something simple.

Jenny wakes up late for work, scrambles to get ready, spill her coffee and drives so quickly that the police pull her over and give her a speeding ticket. When she arrives late to the office, Jenny is frazzled and ends up in a conflict with her boss. She is convinced that her boss’ perspective is wrong and she’s upset for the entire day. She feels defeated, discouraged and drained. These are the heavy burdens that she brings home to her husband and children.

Having no margin of time to process her morning, Jenny’s “mind was blind,” and consequently, she couldn’t see straight. The conflict dynamics with her boss started hours (perhaps days) earlier then the actual conflict.

Unprocessed feelings and misunderstood thoughts fuel turmoil in our lives.

I am quieted by the words in this anonymous quote because just like the domino emotions in Jenny’s day, how and what I “see” really depends on whether I am able to wisely recognize and process my thoughts and feelings (either by myself or with someone’s help) in a way that moves me toward God and His consolation, rather than desolation.

I appreciated this explanation of the terms,“consolation” and “desolation”, recently taught by Chris Ramsey.

Desolation is disharmony:

  • inward self focus
  • negative feelings and thoughts
  • isolation
  • apathy and indifference to the things you love and value
  • loss of vision and hope
  • feeling distant from God
  • drained of energy

Consolation is harmony:

  • outward focus
  • joy and empathy for others
  • closeness with others
  • inspired and creative
  • alive with vision and hope
  • aware of God’s presence and direction
  • energized

I desire to recognize and understand what “triggers” me so that I can move towards consolation, rather than dominoe-ing to desolation. I want to be able to trace back the origin of my feelings so that I can be fully present in the moment and experience the abundant life that God promises.

Gotta’ work on it.

Now our Lord Jesus Christ himself, and God, even our Father, which hath loved us, and hath given us everlasting consolation and good hope through grace, comfort your hearts and establish you in every good word and work. 2 Thessalonians 2.16,17 










One Comment

  1. Diane, these two lists spell out consolation and desolation perfectly. Reading them is motivation to become more aware of triggers, as I desire to dwell in the joy and empathy zone rather than one of fear.
    Canada Day Blessings ~ Wendy

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