The illustration is as funny as the statement is profound.
Conflict doesn’t negate love.
It’s not “if” it happens, it’s “when.” Conflict is inevitable.
Bring two people together and if they’re communicating, there will be a time when their opinions and feelings collide. Sometimes, these differences are not inherently right or wrong – they are simply the result of God-given diversity and personal preferences. Chris and I are very different people and inevitably, we are going to disagree on issues. When we choose to handle these issues properly, good stuff happens – productive dialogue, creative solutions, positive change and generally, a willingness to embrace the other person’s perspective. There are also times when our disagreements are the direct result of sinful motives and behavior – this conflict resolution involves a lot more of God, a lot less of self and a greater commitment of time. We go through these experiences too.
I remember the first time that I heard this revolutionary statement – “The Bible teaches that we should see conflict, neither as an inconvenience nor as an occasion for selfish gain, but rather as an opportunity to demonstrate the presence and power of God. Ken Sande
Wow…conflict is an opportunity to honor God. That sure opens windows for fresh thought, doesn’t it?
Conflict will happen and wise are those who armor themselves with healthy, biblical principles to resolve conflict. One of the best books that I’ve ever read is The Peacemaker, by Ken Sande. It’s an excellent, practical guide to resolving personal conflict. In 1997, I also completed a two phase Conciliator Training Program from the Institute for Christian Conciliation, which is a division of Peacemaker Ministries. I would highly recommend taking the time to dig deeper into this whole area of resolving conflict biblically.
…and above all, love.