During the last two weeks, I have had two conversations about homosexuality. I don’t often talk about this topic but for some reason, it’s come up twice. The first conversation was very frustrating – it went something like this:
N – Diane, what do you think about homosexuality?
D – Well, I look at the world from a biblical worldview and the bible says that homosexuality is wrong.
N – Oh, so you’re homophobic.
D – I am?
N – Yes, you are. You said that homosexuality is wrong.
D – You’re right – that’s what I said. How does that make me homophobic? Did I say that I have an irrational fear and hatred against people who are homosexual?
N – No. But all Christians are homophobic.
D – well, in my opinion, you’ve come to a illogical conclusion. I believe that homosexuality is wrong but that doesn’t automatically make me homophobic. You asked me what I thought – I told you. Disagreeing with homosexuality doesn’t make me homophobic.
That was the end of that conversation. I would have continued talking with this person but he rolled his eyes and walked away.
It seems to me that in our culture, if you don’t accept homosexuality, you are homophobic. There is no in-between – you can’t politely agree to disagree: not about this topic. Do I hate homosexuals? No. Am I afraid of homosexuals? No. Can I love homosexual people but disagree with their sexual orientation? Yes, I can.
Lumping all Christians together and calling them homophobic is offensive and judgmental, yet flippantly and improperly labelling people as homophobic has become culturally acceptable.
I find that really disturbing.