Sometimes, this is how it can play out, right? But it doesn’t need to be this way. Yah…I know there are “morning people” and “not morning people” but a good morning is the result of good choices.
I was listening to a radio broadcast and Greg Smalley was being interviewed. He is the Executive Director of Marriage and Family Formation at Focus on the Family and he had some wise words to say about mornings in a marriage. This is the point that he made: the way that the morning unfolds really sets the tone for the day.
I so agree and I had the opportunity to apply this truth this past week.
Our house had a leaky roof that has been “fixed” once but continued to drip. Chris was travelling so I woke up alone this morning to the sound of water dripping onto the kitchen floor. “Hruumph” is what I was feeling. My first inclination was to text Chris and vent. He would want to know that we were still having roofing issues, right?
Then I remembered what I heard on the radio and I was challenged.
Attitude, Diane, attitude.
When I was younger, someone once told me that “your attitude affects the autopilot of your thoughts.” Sounded a bit strange to me at the time but I tucked those words in the back of my mind and pulled them out this morning. I think that friend was onto something.
Can you just imagine Chris waking up a million miles away, to a frustrated wife and an angry text? I know my husband and this would really discourage him. It would effect the rest of his day. So, I did a little self talk, read some applicable verses in the Bible and THEN I texted:
Morning! Sorry for the bad news…it’s raining and the roof is leaking. Can you contact ______ again? Thanks. I love you. Appreciate all you do. (and I texted a big kiss emoticon)
…and this is what I got back:
Crap! I mean, Good Morning beh-beh. Just texted him. Call you from the trar in a bit. (That’s how Phoenie used to say “car.”
A positive, loving and humorous tone was set for the day. We’re not always successful when it comes to communication but this time? VICTORY! Chris and I remained connected and felt respected. I know this is a cheesy saying and I can’t figure out who first said it but “your attitude really does affect your altitude . . .
. . . morning, noon and night.