Insightful truth, isn’t it?
A friend comes up to you and tell you that you hurt her feelings — what’s your immediate reaction?
The bottom line is that it’s tough to say, “Sorry”.
Is your apology conditional on your take of the situation or is it enough that this person has expressed that she’s been hurt by your comment or action?
It is my observation that as a culture, we are not empathetically equipped to listen well, nor are we humbly quieted to authentically ask forgiveness. We’re much better at being defensive and self-protecting.
We would be more likely to scurry through such an interaction with a self-righteousness that forbids us to see any other perspective but our own but the truth is that when someone is brave enough to express his/her feelings, we need to be secure enough to honour them.
Say what you feel — it’s being real. As Oscar Wilde once said, “A true friend stabs you in the front.”
A strong friendship not only bares the weight of truth…it embraces it.
Iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27.17) so a friend sharpens a friend.
Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses. Proverbs 27.6