It’s Valentine’s Day…a day to celebrate love.
Love can be a wonderful, crazy feeling. I ‘feel’ great love for my husband. My heart still beats faster when he hugs me tightly and seldom a day goes by that he doesn’t make me laugh. I can hardly wait to be with him at the end of the day and I love to text little love messages to him when he’s at work. It feels so good to watch him play his bass on Sunday mornings and when he smiles at me, I melt. He makes a perfect cup of chai tea and a great guacamole dip! He irons his own shirts and he cleans the snow off my car in the morning. He brings balance into my life and I trust him with my heart. When I woke up this morning to a romantic card and a good supply of chocolate, I felt loved and cherished. Truly, I love my husband so much, I could burst.
But love is so much more than a feeling.
Many years ago, I was introduced to the best definition of “love” that I have ever heard.
LOVE IS A CHOICE, THAT FREELY ACCEPTS ANOTHER AND SEEKS HIS/HER HIGHEST GOOD.
I am so sorry that I can’t give credit where credit is due but it was a long time ago and I just can’t recall who shared this quote with me. I can tell you that I have often reflected on the truths expressed in this statement. This definition grounds me when I am bombarded with foolish, shallow notions of love.
It reminds me that love is a choice, not a feeling.
It instructs me to accept others as they are, not as I want them to be.
It rebukes me when I am selfish and want what I want when I want it.
It drives me to “seek to understand, rather then to be understood.”
It comforts me when others disappoint me.
It encourages me to go beyond the feeling and respond out of obedience.
It challenges me to develop healthy boundaries.
It humbles me because I am aware of how often I don’t love well.
…and as I get older and there is more and more life behind me, I am very much cognizant of the reality that no matter how wonderful human relationships can be at times – no matter how ‘over the top’ those loving moments can feel – they can not fully satisfy.
“If I find in myself a desire which no experience in this world can satisfy, the most probably explanation is that I was made for another world.” C.S. Lewis